I couldn’t help noticing the piece in the Hun yesterday about women with children feeling stigmatised when they went back to work after having kids, and others feeling stigmatised if they stayed home, and didn’t go back to work!
Almost 60 per cent of working mums were made to feel they weren’t taking parenting seriously enough, the survey, conducted on http://www.careforkids.com.au, reported.
Stay-at-home mums did not fare much better – 40 per cent experienced negativity about their decision not to work.
continued> Women without children often also feel they are characterised as ‘selfish’ or ‘missing’ something (no thanks to M.Latham).
The falsity of this constructed dilemma was captured perfectly by @lissylikesshoes on twitter last week who said:
Have no babies: something is wrong with you; have babies and stay at home: you are lazy; have babies and work: you are evuls. #cannotwin
So that’s good to know; family or no family, single or partnered, paid work or home work; either neither, nither, nor, we cannot win. As soon as we stop judging ourselves against an impossible standard, the sooner we can get on with successfully doing whatever we have to do, choose to do, want to do. What do you think?